The Act of Gentle Seduction

Men - especially married men - often do not take time to seduce their partner.

The act of gentle seduction causes her to feel sexually desirable, wanted, cherished and demonstrates genuine respect and affection. Feeling this way turns a woman on.

Take time to become deeply interested in her feelings. Spend time with her. When you do, every sexual aspect of your relationship becomes the normal course of action.

Put some excitement and thoughtfulness in setting the stage to become united:

• It can begin with a love note, an unexpected greeting card or a sexy phone call suggesting intimacy the day before.

• Read a book on seduction.

• Pay attention to the techniques of some of our greatest lovers. It was Ricardo Montalban who said that a great lover is someone who can satisfy one woman her entire life and be satisfied with one woman his entire life.

• Plan a surprise evening at home together. No TV. No phones. No kids. Get a babysitter to care for them overnight . . . at the babysitter's house!

• The key here is to plan in advance. Have an agenda. No cooking. Cater in a bite to eat. Chill her favourite wine. Watch an erotic video.

• Talk. Listen. Seduce.

• Experience each other to the fullest. Make it an evening to remember. Do whatever you need to do to prepare an evening she will always treasure, one she will talk about for years to come.

• Making love is on the agenda, and it shouldn't feel as though you are squeezing it in hurriedly between the last TV show and the first sleepy yawn. Slow down. Take your time.

• Dim the lights. Scatter lit candles around the room. They can create an atmosphere of mystery of things to come. Burn some incense. Pick music that creates a passionate mood.

• Give her no less than thirty minutes of exquisite foreplay. Do what SHE likes.

• Pleasure her in erotic ways, orally and otherwise.

• This is not a night for you; it's for her.

• Try to imagine why you think "Love Me Tender" was such a big hit!

• Express your love by making warm and passionate love on the floor in front of the fireplace. Remember to light the fire.

• Have several blankets nearby in case you fall asleep.

• It takes imagination, creative seduction and sensitivity to her every sexual need.

• The subtle action of seduction enhances lovemaking and promises more sexual satisfaction for both love partners.

• Together you will cherish those private moments only committed partners can treasure.

By Larry James