Ten Common Body Language Mistakes

Body language is a very powerful way of telling people when you are angry, sad, happy, silly, wanting to seduce, flirt, and more. Unfortunately, sometimes body language tells a completely wrong message, especially when it comes to flirting and seduction. If you want to meet new men or women but want to make sure you present the right message through body language.

Below, we have provided 10 common mistakes made regarding body language.

Misreading – Many times, both men and women misread another person’s body language, which means missed opportunity. It is important to pay close attention to subtleties in that each person has different ways of sending out the same message.

Immaturity and Silliness – Women love men who have great senses of humor but giving off body language that makes you look foolish is not going to cut it. You can be funny and get someone to laugh but stuffing your nose with a napkin or making a ketchup mustache is wrong. Be funny with your body but not goofy.

Free Drinks – Sometimes, men will send free drinks to a table as a means of flirting with a woman. Although a disconnected type of body language, there are better ways to get her attention. Now, offering one drink is certainly fine but continuing to buy drinks is out of line.

Eyes – You need to use your eyes to show interest. While you do not have to stare someone down, you also want to avoid taking your eyes off the listener or talker. Remember, the eyes are your audience so use this chance wisely.

Obstacles – Sometimes, people will place a chair, book, or some other item in front of them when trying to make a connection. This creates a barrier, which sends out mixed signals. Even crossing your arms or talking to someone from a distant show some disinterest. Make yourself open so the body language is positive.

Hands – You also want to keep your body position open. Again, if your hands are clasped or interlaced, you are showing nervousness and some disinterest. By unclasping your hands and keeping them open, you immediately change the way in which you are perceived.

Gestures – If a woman were sitting at a table and she uses gestures such as flipping her hair, putting on lip-gloss, or applying lotion to her hands, you would feel as if she were flirting. Even men can use various gestures such as rolling a mustache, winking, or giving a woman a gentle wave, all signs of interest.

Animation – Some animation is perfectly fine when flirting with someone. What you want to avoid is too much animation, which looks silly and too little animation that is boring. Instead of standing still, do not be afraid to shift around somewhat when talking to someone.

Posture – Standing with slouched shoulders or for a woman, legs uncrossed, you present yourself as unaware, lazy, and sloppy. Simply changing your posture to standing erect and proud or crossing your legs the right way will send off the right message that you have control and price in yourself.

Smiles – Be sure you smile, which is one of the most important types of body language you can use. Too often, people forget to show their pearly whites. Smiling makes you inviting and approachable. When flirting or trying to seduce someone, flirting with a smile will go much further than simply gazing at the person of interest.

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The Act of Gentle Seduction

Men - especially married men - often do not take time to seduce their partner.

The act of gentle seduction causes her to feel sexually desirable, wanted, cherished and demonstrates genuine respect and affection. Feeling this way turns a woman on.

Take time to become deeply interested in her feelings. Spend time with her. When you do, every sexual aspect of your relationship becomes the normal course of action.

Put some excitement and thoughtfulness in setting the stage to become united:

• It can begin with a love note, an unexpected greeting card or a sexy phone call suggesting intimacy the day before.

• Read a book on seduction.

• Pay attention to the techniques of some of our greatest lovers. It was Ricardo Montalban who said that a great lover is someone who can satisfy one woman her entire life and be satisfied with one woman his entire life.

• Plan a surprise evening at home together. No TV. No phones. No kids. Get a babysitter to care for them overnight . . . at the babysitter's house!

• The key here is to plan in advance. Have an agenda. No cooking. Cater in a bite to eat. Chill her favourite wine. Watch an erotic video.

• Talk. Listen. Seduce.

• Experience each other to the fullest. Make it an evening to remember. Do whatever you need to do to prepare an evening she will always treasure, one she will talk about for years to come.

• Making love is on the agenda, and it shouldn't feel as though you are squeezing it in hurriedly between the last TV show and the first sleepy yawn. Slow down. Take your time.

• Dim the lights. Scatter lit candles around the room. They can create an atmosphere of mystery of things to come. Burn some incense. Pick music that creates a passionate mood.

• Give her no less than thirty minutes of exquisite foreplay. Do what SHE likes.

• Pleasure her in erotic ways, orally and otherwise.

• This is not a night for you; it's for her.

• Try to imagine why you think "Love Me Tender" was such a big hit!

• Express your love by making warm and passionate love on the floor in front of the fireplace. Remember to light the fire.

• Have several blankets nearby in case you fall asleep.

• It takes imagination, creative seduction and sensitivity to her every sexual need.

• The subtle action of seduction enhances lovemaking and promises more sexual satisfaction for both love partners.

• Together you will cherish those private moments only committed partners can treasure.

By Larry James

Look and feel sexy in clothes

If you're like many women out there, getting dressed up for work, a night out or a friendly gathering involves more than picking out a nice outfit and putting on makeup. The mental aspect can be so draining that you find yourself second guessing each selection.

But it's not even the dressing up part; it's also the way you feel in your own skin.

How many times have you compared yourself to another woman?

Maybe you're a bit taller than the average and you find yourself slouching and feeling awkward next to her. Or maybe you’re heavier set and find yourself always wrapping your arms around your waist trying to cover what you perceive to be rolls and sags? Does it feel as though everyone around you is sensing your insecurity? It might feel like the world is snickering at you as you walk by, waiting for you to trip or make some embarrassing move. The snickers and the stares from people are so overwhelming that you would sooner stay at home than be caught in the outside world.

The reality is that those snickers and stares are most likely in your head. But it's so difficult to realize this when you are so engulfed with your own low self-thoughts.

It's when you pick up your self-esteem that you realize "hey I'm really just as attractive, if not more, than the next woman."

Patty Contenta

Your Breasts are Your Assets - Learn to Take Care of Them

Taking care of your breasts is not a difficult thing to do as long as you establish a routine and abide by it on a regular basis.

Wear a Bra that Fits

The first step in taking good care of your breasts is to wear a bra that fits properly, something 95% of all women are not doing. You can find a trained professional to measure you and determine your size at nearly any department store.

Breast Examinations

Once you find the right amount of support then it’s time to focus on the health of your “girls” or as someone I love calls them, “twins.” Beginning at the age of 30 women should begin to do a monthly self-breast exam. Your ob-gyn can give you instructions and advice on how to perform one on yourself. Many women are afraid to touch themselves and it’s only when they go to the ob-gyn or have a mammogram that they learn they have breast cancer.

Breast Mammograms

At the age of 35 it’s recommended that you have your first mammogram. I had my first one last year at the age of 33 due to health concerns. I had some difficulty trying to schedule my appointment and I really had to push my way into the appointment book. I was told that 33 was too young for a mammogram and that my breasts were probably too dense for the mammogram to detect anything. Don’t let anyone stop you from having one done if you or your ob-gyn feel as though it’s necessary to have one done. It’s not much fun having your breasts squeezed between two plates but sooner or later it is something all women need to do.

Breasts come in all shapes and all sizes but what matters most is that you take care of them while you are young so you keep them for the remainder of your life.

Jenny Love

Sensual Touch Massage

The combination of scent and touch is extremely effective in opening up intimacy between two people. That's basically how we communicate love in an effective way, a way that doesn't involve having to discuss the subject a great deal. It also works wonderfully on a basic physical level. There are a lot of nerve endings that follow along the path of the spine. As you massage, your touch brings the blood to the surface, you speed the absorption of the oils into the skin, and you also bring up the level of oxytocin, the hormone needed in high levels for the process of sexual arousal.

Massage is an especially good thing for men to focus on. Women often need the kind of attention it gives them o feel comfortable with proceeding on to more intimate activities. The nurturing, caring-for aspect of romance is extremely important between two people. You will have more interesting and intense erotic experiences if you're involved on all levels with each other. And touch and scent are the best ways of really opening some of those deeper levels.

A backrub is something that everyone can relate to positively and that's a good place to start. Using oils will make it quite a different, and far more exciting, experience.

Begin the massage with a small amount of your chosen aromatherapy oil, just a teaspoon or so. Rub the oil in the palms of your hands to warm it up before it touches your partner's skin. Cold oil poured on a back will quickly produce about twice as much tension as was there before you started!

There are certain basic message techniques designed to relieve tension, that are very effective. Tension tends to accumulate in the neck, shoulders and upper back in women, and in the lower back and buttocks in men. The really important thing is not how you do the massage. The idea is not to become an expert masseuse or masseur. This is a seduction ritual! Be creative and playful.

The Welcoming Press: With your lover lying face down, straddle him or her or kneel at their side. Gently press down on your partner's shoulders, and on either side of the spine. Do not press directly on the spin at any time during the massage. This stroke gives your partner a few moments to get used to the feeling of your hands on their skin.

The Back Warmer: Now begin to warm your lover's back. With a flat hand, fingers together, palm in contact with the skin, move the hands in parallel lines up either side of the spine, then out and across the shoulders, and down the sides of the torso.

Kneading: Working as deeply as is comfortable for your partner, use your fingers to knead the muscles of the back, starting with the neck and shoulders and working your way down. Go slowly and use additional oil as necessary.

Raking: Spread your fingers and, keeping them somewhat stiff, rake them down the back from shoulders to buttocks. This releases deep, underlying tissue tensions.

Lower Back: The lower back and sacrum (the downward-pointing triangle located between the buttocks at the end of the spine) can become congested and tender, especially in premenstrual women. Lightly massage this area with small, circular strokes on buttocks, hips and upper thighs. With a man, use lower back spirals. Starting at the top of the crack between the buttocks use your thumbs to make small spirals upwards along either side of the tailbone to the top of the sacrum, then press your thumbs along the top of the hips and move them out, across and down the side of the body to the floor. Repeat several times.

Buttocks: Try "Thumbs over the Mountain." Starting at the bottom, press your thumbs firmly into the flesh of the buttocks and follow the curve up, around, and down the side of the hips. This can be a tender and sensitive area, so use only as much pressure as your lover can comfortably tolerate. Return to the first position and move your thumbs apart slightly to describe a second curved line that is parallel to and outside the first, continuing until you have no curve left to follow. Repeat several times.

Thighs: Once you get to your lover's thighs, you may find yourself getting distracted and decide to shift your focus to other kinds of touching. Or you may want to try out some massage strokes of your own design. Or you can ask your partner to turn over and continue the massage with a few more strokes to the front of the body.

Shoulder and Chest Presses: Kneeling behind your partner, as he or she is lying face up, press down on the shoulders and hold. Ask your partner to take a deep, releasing breath, and let the essential oils work their magic as you increase the pressure of your hands slightly. At the end of the exhalation, release. Slide your hands up and over your lover's collar bone and press very gently. Have them take a deep breath as you hold, then release. Now move your hands to the centre of the chest, (between a woman's breasts) and, laying one hand on top of the other, press very gently. Have your partner take a deep breath and release.

Sexual Energy Release Points, Neck and Ears: Encourage your lover to breathe in a deep and relaxing manner as you gently massage their neck, making small circles over the release points on the upper neck and about halfway up the ears. If the massage is a prelude to lovemaking, now is a really good time to let the kissing begin. Remember, too, that a woman's breasts are highly charged with erotic energy and can create a dramatic arousal response when massaged or caressed.

Improvise! Well, you're on your own from here. Relax, improvise and be creative, you'll do just fine!

Jenny Love

Seductive Beauty

 Seduction is Alluring

The dance between the sexes is a wonderful thing when it comes to the subject of seduction. Making ourselves alluring and attractive to the one we desire is both fun and exciting. If that wasn't the case, then there wouldn't be as much need for glamorous lingerie stores, hair dressers, rows and rows of cosmetic shelves in department stores, stores that sell sexy clothing, and hundreds of fragrances from name brand manufacturers.

It all depends on what turns on the object of your desire. Some women love a man with a full beard, whereas, others couldn't tolerate all that facial hair. Some men are switched on by a female in black, lacy lingerie and five inch heels while other men couldn't care less as they would rather have less packaging to deal with. A pair of sexy legs is appealing to a man. Women seem to prefer manly posteriors (okay, butts). It is all very subjective and based on personal preferences.

So, in order to be seductive, you will have to do your homework and know what turns on his/her switch. You will need to get to know the person to accomplish this.

Seduction is Romantic

Romance is the fine art of genuinely treating the object of your love with a sweet caringness that arouses the desire in them to want to be with you. If you want to seduce him/her, be romantic!

And most importantly, have Fun!

By Beverly Smith

Jenny Love

How to shave with olive oil

Sensitive skin can react poorly to the artificial chemicals in commercial shaving creams and lotions. One solution is to switch to using olive oil – a natural lubricant. It's handy in the pantry, affordable, and not only makes shaving easier, but will also leave your skin smooth and soft.

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