Flirting with danger

Flirting is fun and can lead to romance, but some people get a kick out of leading others on.

You know those men who seem so fabulous when you first meet them because they so clearly get how interesting and sexy you are, right away? Sigh. We all fall for this, but here are some tips to pigeonhole the poisonous ones before you get your heart broken.

How to spot a dangerous flirt:

· He’s all over you, even before you've exchanged two words.

· His banter is sexually charged and he pays exaggerated compliments.

· He is quite touchy-feely with you from the start.

· He asks you for your number as soon as he can and may suggest that the two of you go to a late–night bar that same evening, where he will try to seduce you.

It’s exciting in the beginning, but he may convince you to do something you’ll regret later, when all you wanted was some harmless flirting.

How to flirt safely:

· Have fun! Flirt, get out there, enjoy yourself – but also control yourself. Use your flirting with tact.

· Be on guard for people who are trying to play you. Keep your eyes open and don't give too much of yourself away too soon.

· Use your flirting skills to get to know people, not as an end in themselves.

· Don’t be a toxic flirt, who’s addicted to leading people on. You’ll end up messing up other people, and yourself.

· Don’t flirt to get attention and flattery. Get your self-esteem from within yourself, not from people who don't know the real you.

· Never assume that playing games is the way to a man's heart. Don't try to make him jealous by flirting with other men, pretending you don't remember him when he calls or telling him you're busy for the next two weeks. A nice man will take these indicators as a snub and may decide not to ring you again.

Acknowledgement Fairlady